Sometimes it's not that you lack discipline...

Two days ago, I decided to face my fears and start sending DMs daily, and I did.

I sent 10 DMs on Monday.

The idea was to send 10 DMs everyday till the end of 2026.

But guess what, I didn't send any DMs yesterday.

And it wasn't because I forgot, I didn't.

I just couldn't bring myself to do it.

No matter how I looked at it, or how I tried to convince myself that it's worth it, I still couldn't do it.

And then I remembered a movie I had seen some time ago.

One of the characters in the movie (a child) was always being forced by his caregiver to eat carrots, even though he didn't like carrots.

So whenever he eats them, he eventually vomits them.

In a way, I was just like that caregiver.

Forcing myself to do something that I have not been able to make peace with for years.

I started my online journey in 2022, and since then, I've not been able to make peace with cold DMing.

You don't think that's indiscipline do you?

Cos right now, I don't think it is.

I think it's just a preference and a genuine dislike for it.

So, I made up my mind yesterday that I'm going to stop forcing myself to send cold DMs to people I have no interest in knowing.

Henceforth, my DMs will only be to people I genuinely want to connect with.

Granted, Cold DMing helps you land clients, but that's not the only way…

Just like how carrots are not the only vegetables to keep a child healthy.

There are tons of other ways to land clients, and I will explore those and leave Cold DMs alone.

Not to be a bad influence on you, because, of course you should be disciplined and do the things you're most scared of…

But if you're like me who just hasn't seemed to find peace with a particular thing for 4 long years, then you may want to consider the fact that you genuinely hate it, and leave it alone.

There are a million ways to prepare jollof rice, you don't have to force yourself to only focus on the one way you hate.

I'll see you in subsequent emails.

A lil hint: I'm building something, anticipate. 😊

Happy New Month, love.

Your queen,

Happiness.